So why exactly are so many Christians living a pattern of life that is expressly opposed by Scripture? When it comes to why Christians are into serial monogamy, the answers are quite varied. But some of the top reasons are lack of biblical knowledge, a general disregard for authority, and cultural pressure. Since culture has slowly been moving away from the idea of lasting, covenantal monogamy, many Christians have as well and not all of this is volitional disobedience.
Some of it truly is ignorance regarding what the Scriptures teach about keeping yourself pure before marriage and entering a covenant relationship. Second, some Christians do know the truth of Scripture and simply choose to ignore it.
Many churches are becoming more and more passive, refusing to address the issues of serial monogamy in a meaningful way. As a result, many Christians have compartmentalized their lives. On Sunday mornings, they show up to church, sing worship, and listen to the sermon, but then go home to sleep with their girlfriend or boyfriend.
So, as the authority of the church has become weaker and weaker, many Christians have taken the liberty to live how they like, rather than how the Bible commands. Third, one of the most influential factors is the cultural shift. Serial monogamy is presented as normal and healthy in TV, movies, and nearly every other form of media. This cultural normalizing of serial monogamy has put a lot of pressure on Christians to follow suit. Fifty years ago, whether you were a Christian or not, people typically were not living together before marriage or having multiple long-standing sexual relationships.
These things were less common and often frowned upon. However, in more recent years this sort of behavior has become commonplace.
If you are a Christian and feel drawn to serial monogamy it may be helpful to sit down with a Christian counselor to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings.
Relationships are complicated and the fear commitment or the lack of desire to pursue commitment may be rooted in deeper life and family patterns then you at first realize.
Meeting with a Christian counselor will help you sort out what is going on and give you a space to process what you believe about relationships. It is Unbiblical The first and most important reason for any Christian not to practice serial monogamy is because it is expressly prohibited in Scripture. This is the exact opposite of serial monogamy.
Serial monogamy is predicated on the idea that sexual relationships and romantic relationships, in general, are fluid. Nothing is permanent.
The relationship serves you as long as you feel it does, but when it no longer feels good for you, then you are entitled to leave. This idea absolutely cannot be reconciled with the teachings of Scriptures. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God.
It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us. In romantic relationships, you desire to be deeply known, but being known comes with a risk.
Where marriage and covenant create a sacred space to be fully known and loved, serial monogamy does the opposite. Serial monogamy can create a cycle of being loved and not fully known or fully known and not loved. This is the experience of being loved but not fully known. On the other hand, maybe you choose to make yourself fully known, revealing the darkest parts of yourself to another.
Doing so without the promise of a covenant is frightening and potentially dangerous. Your partner very well may move on when they hear the truth of who you are. Financial Complications Money and relationships are complicated in marriage, where you vow to be committed and share your life together.
Money and serial monogamy are even more complicated. Many of the Old Testament leaders had more than one wife.
At what point in Jewish history did monogamy become the accepted norm? We could say that monogamy was presented as the moral norm through the first man and woman! In Genesis, there is no indication that Adam took any wife other than Eve. Furthermore, the tone of Genesis 2. However, more positive figures such as the kings of Israel, including David and Solomon, were polygamous.
But why would God permit this? In its early history, when Israel was constantly at war with other nations, the option to marry an already married man may have been beneficial to women who were dependent on men for provision.
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